I recommend this book highly - "The Tools" by Phil Stutz and Bary Michels, two L.A. therapists who have developed a technique which is an "open secret" in Hollywood. I think of it as The 12 Steps Meets Jung.
One of the quotes in the front of the book is, "The things which hurt, instruct." Benjamin Franklin. I couldn't agree more. The best part of my journey these past three years (today is the third anniversary of my mother's death) has been the unbelievably powerful lessons I've learned. I am stronger, more empathetic, more emotional, more alive, happier and more excited about life than I have been in a long time. I'm also still scared, still dealing with the fear of the future, but if I've learned anything - it's that we are all stronger than we know. I love this book and can't wait to get all the way through it, but I'm reading it slowly, it's one of those books I will underline and re-read.