Thursday, July 26, 2012

D.H. Lawrence

 Song of a Man Who Has Come Through

Not I, not I, but the wind that blows through me!
A fine wind is blowing the new direction of Time.
If only I let it bear me, carry me, if only it carry me!
If only I am sensitive, subtle, oh, delicate, a winged gift!
If only, most lovely of all, I yield myself and am borrowed
By the fine, fine, wind that takes its course through the chaos of the world
Like a fine, an exquisite chisel, a wedge-blade inserted;
If only I am keen and hard like the sheer tip of a wedge
Driven by invisible blows,
The rock will split, we shall come at the wonder, we shall find the Hesperides.

Oh, for the wonder that bubbles into my soul,
I would be a good fountain, a good well-head,
Would blur no whisper, spoil no expression.

What is the knocking?
What is the knocking at the door in the night?
It is somebody wants to do us harm.

No, no, it is the three strange angels.
Admit them, admit them.

Saturday, July 21, 2012

Post Traumatic Growth

Friedrich Nietzshe's quote: "That which does not kill us makes us stronger" used to annoy me.  I have to admit that I do find Kelly Clarkson's song "What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger" quite catchy.

Yesterday, I saw a TED talk by a woman named Jane McGonigal, a game designer who suffered a serious brain injury, which caused her to go through an extremely traumatic year of pain and constant suicidal thoughts.

She came out of it with a game - and research which supports the notion of "what doesn't kill you, etc."  It is exactly the conclusion I, too, have reached after my own difficult journey of divorce, death, and quite a bit of loss, all at once, and all of it traumatic. 

This theory is called "Post Traumatic Growth" - and though it sounds crazy, I believe it's true.

Here is what she discovered and it completely matches my own experience:

My priorities have changed, I'm not afraid to do what makes me happy.
I feel closer to friends and family.
I understand myself better.
I have a new sense of meaning and purpose.
I'm better able to focus on my goals and dreams.

In addition, the idea of resilience in the following areas increases and gives you the chance to live a life of fewer regrets:

Physical resilience
Mental resilience
Emotional resilience
Social resilience

This is not to say that we don't have bad days...we do.  But somehow they feel more manageable then they used to.  I know it sounds crazy and I hope you don't spend the day with the song "What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger" stuck in your head.  You should watch her talk on TED, it's really good.

And if you find yourself singing the song, get up and dance!