And as hard as these past two and a half years have been, they have also been an incredible growing experience, unlike anything I have ever experienced.
Perception, that is the key. Sometimes, I have felt that I couldn't go on, that life was too difficult.
Most of the time, I am filled with gratitude for having had a spiritual awakening, a shift in perception of my circumstances, a re-evaluation of what is really important to me - my daughter, my friends, my writing, my job, my faith - that is what has kept me together. Being of service and showing up, being more empathetic and grateful for simple things in life.
I lost something else, about 15 pounds. "The Divorce Diet" - I wouldn't recommend it as a way to lose weight, but it definitely was one of the perks.
I read an amazing chapter yesterday in Steve Chandler's book "Time Warrior" and here is the last part of the chapter:
"...whenever something comes crashing down something else can start building up. And that's where I want my mind to go. What's good about this? What's great about this? What strengthens me? What can make me better?
Here's a fresh option of perception: These are good times because they are challenging, not in spite of the fact that they are challenging. These times are my wake-up call. This is where I get my true strength. This where where I find out what I am made of. Who would not want to find out what they are made of?"